Gods view on dating
Copyright ©2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.The Bible is clear about this: Maintaining your sexual integrity is not optional; neither is getting romantically involved with someone who doesn't share your faith (2 Cor. Above all, God wants to come first in all you do (Matthew ). During that time, several men have come and gone from her life.And each new boyfriend has developed a relationship with Sharon's son, Branden.She thought her lunch date had done the same, but she quickly discovered otherwise. During their lunch, his eyes filled with tears and anguish.When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.
She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).You may believe the lie that you'll never find a godly man or woman, that you'll have to accept whoever comes along.One way to avoid the temptation of settling is to know what's acceptable and what's not, to both you and God, before you start looking for love.