Black men not dating black women
Therefore, before I go further, let me say this: I do not hate, dislike, or look down on black men who date, love, and marry white women. Black women want too much, they have too many attitudes.” and other generalizations are reasons (I personally call them excuses, but I digress) as to why some black men now avoid dating black women.
What I DO have a problem with, are the black men who REFUSE to date black women based on preconceived notions and stereotypes. Many black men have decided that dating black women is “not worth the trouble”, and have deliberately excluded us from their dating pool, seeking the attention of women of other races, primarily white.
After hearing the men's experiences (and, as the above clip shows, challenging some of their notions), Iyanla thanks them for coming to the House of Healing.
"Thank you for being a demonstration, because I know there are hundreds of thousands of black men, all ages, who've had these experiences," she says.
Before everyone gets to mingle, three of the men meet with Iyanla to talk about why they avoid dating within their race.Furthermore, a black woman is not something to “deal with”.She is something to experience, adore, cherish, and love. Anyone that can only imagine “dealing with” me, is someone who doesn’t look at the bigger picture.Let me start by saying this: I know writing this blog post is going to cause quite a bit of controversy, so let's get this out of the way: I am intelligent, not what society deems "ghetto," and from what I am told, and given where I work in the television business, I am attractive. Other races are always seen as a trophy on the arm of a black man." He looked at me like I was crazy and said, "You don't understand the black-man struggle. I have friends of many backgrounds, and I've seen Asian women, Caucasian women and Latina women all get an attitude (mind-blowing, right? Black men are viewed as sexy and, in a sense, a 'trophy' for another race, but black women are never deemed the most attractive. It seems these women have been conditioned to think they're not worthy if they're "just black." These statements below are the most common things I hear about why black men don't like black women: "Black women have too much attitude/ghetto." Before I met my boyfriend's mother in person, she thought I was white. From the way I spoke on the phone to the way I "act," I have been dubbed the "whitest black girl" everywhere from my hometown to a city close to the Canadian border (Syracuse, get an attitude over normal things, like any woman would. Vanessa Williams (who, by the way, is fully black; people get off on thinking very attractive black women are mixed).