Dating for casual people
Don't waste your time ruminating over what you did wrong or what you can do to get a person to act as you want him or her to act. All you can control is the amount of bullsh*t you accept in your life and how you react to it.
Now, the only flakes I want inside of me are in the form of cereal. When someone is being hot and cold with you, it is a sign to either call him or her out on the bullsh*t, walk away or realize it is a pattern that will not change, so you should lower your expectations. What matters is you are wasting your time by trying to figure it out.Here are five things I've learned about casual sex: After a series of disappointments, I had no choice but to examine the role I was playing in all of this. I'd meet a guy, we'd hit it off and just when I started to feel like I could trust him, he'd turn into a giant flake.I would then blame myself for being stupid enough to experience human emotions. Once I figured out why I was choosing them, my entire perspective changed.Any time someone wanted more of a commitment from me, I freaked out.For the last few years, every guy I dated gave some sort of disclaimer up top about, “Just getting out of a relationship,” or, “Not looking for anything serious,” or “really just focusing on his career.”I would ignore this giant red flag and then berate myself for doing something to drive him away when subconsciously, I chose him because I knew he would eventually do that.